Making a House a Home: Tips for Couples Moving In Together
Moving in together is a big step in a relationship, and creating a shared home is an exciting part of that journey. It's a chance to blend your lives and styles, building a space that reflects your unique bond. At Sage Family Counseling, we understand the importance of this transition and want to offer some tips for couples as they settle into their new space. Creating a happy home together involves more than just unpacking boxes; it's about building a foundation for your future.
Cultivating Shared Meaning:
Your home should be a reflection of your relationship. Think about the activities you enjoy together and find ways to incorporate them into your décor and layout. Do you love game nights? Create a dedicated game corner with easy access to your favorite board games and card decks. Perhaps a fun sign like "Couples that Play Together Stay Together" could add a playful touch. If games aren't your thing, identify other shared passions. Love to ski? Display photos from your trips. Dream of traveling? Grow plants that remind you of your favorite destinations. Enjoy a good cup of coffee together? Invest in that fancy espresso machine you've both been eyeing. These small touches can serve as constant reminders of your connection and shared experiences.
Balancing "You," "Me," and "We" Spaces:
While creating shared spaces is important, it's equally vital to honor each individual's needs and preferences. Your home should reflect both your "we-ness" and your individual identities. Don't be afraid to mix and match décor that represents each of you. If one partner loves yoga while the other is an avid outdoors enthusiast, make room for both. Designate space for the yoga mat, blocks, and diffuser, while also ensuring there's a spot for the kayak, sleeping bags, and climbing gear. Balancing individual hobbies and shared interests will help each of you feel comfortable and at home.
Creating Spaces for Relaxation and Connection:
Consider creating dedicated spaces for different experiences. Just as we prioritize work and social activities, we should also prioritize relaxation and connection within our homes. We can learn from other cultures that emphasize these important aspects of life. Think about the Danish concept of "Hygge" – that cozy feeling of warmth, comfort, and togetherness. Imagine enjoying hot chocolate by a crackling fire in your own Hygge-inspired corner. Or consider the Dutch concept of "Niksen," the art of doing nothing and simply enjoying the moment. Create a quiet space where you can relax, unwind, and simply be present with each other. Whether it's a cozy reading nook or a peaceful spot on the porch, having dedicated spaces for relaxation and connection can transform your house into a sanctuary.
Prioritize Your Sleep Sanctuary:
Finally, don't underestimate the importance of a good night's sleep. Moving in together is the perfect opportunity to upgrade your sleeping arrangements. A comfortable bed and a peaceful sleep environment are essential for both physical and emotional well-being. Talk to each other about your sleep preferences – firm or soft mattress, heavy or light blankets, etc. Creating a sleep sanctuary that caters to both of your needs will make you both look forward to retreating to your bedroom at the end of the day.
For more ideas, check out this article that we contributed to for ApartmentGuide.com: https://www.apartmentguide.com/blog/moving-in-together-traps/
Moving in together is a beautiful adventure. By focusing on shared meaning, individual needs, dedicated relaxation and connection spaces, and prioritizing sleep, you can create a home that truly reflects your love and supports your growing relationship. At Sage Family Counseling, we're here to support you through every stage of your journey together.
